We chatted with the Wall Street Journal this month on conversation, getting deep with people and of course, avoiding social scripts. Check it out:
Spare Yourself From Tedious Small Talk
What seems like banal banter can turn into something more meaningful—and even help your career—if you know how to steer the conversation.
By Sue Shellenbarger
We’ve all gotten mired in banal small talk at some point. What if there were a way to avoid that conversational quicksand?
If someone says, “I just got back from vacation,” three in four people give a dead-end reply like, “Boy, do I need one of those.” A more inviting question, such as, “What was your favorite day like?” can keep the conversation from dying on the vine, according to research by Contacts Count,a Newtown, Pa., consulting and training firm that advises employers on networking.
Much of our day-to-day talk is a missed opportunity. The ability to draw others into meaningful conversations can determine whether people want to get to know you, or remember you at all. Failure to learn it can stall your career.
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