How to Escape The Friend Zone in 4 Steps
To become friend-zoned is easy—to get out of it is a different story. Here’s your step-by-step guide to escaping the friend zone in 4 steps (or less). The point here is to absolutely CRUSH each step before moving on to the next one.
Step 1: Be The Catch
Be the catch. Treat yourself as a great catch. This process may take days or even months. People who were highly attracted to their friends overestimated how much their friends actually liked them (ouch!).
Step 2: Focus on Dopamine
When we interact with people, we’re interacting with a couple of different chemicals. And one I want to focus on is dopamine. Dopamine is the chemical that gives us pleasure, and Dr. John Medina found that dopamine makes people memorable. Dopamine creates excitement, engagement, and motivation.
Step 3: Focus on Oxytocin
Once you’re in the groove and you’re starting to feel a mutual connection, it’s time to move on to oxytocin. Oxytocin is the molecule of trust, bonding, and love (especially romantic love). Oxytocin is critical for romance. When you introduce oxytocin into the relationship, they’ll start to think: “Are they… serious?”
Step 4: Focus on Adrenaline
After the men stepped off the bridge, they were approached by a woman who offered her name and phone number. The men who crossed the scary bridge were significantly more likely to call the woman afterward and ask her out on a date. And the same men, after experiencing fear and adrenaline from crossing the shaky bridge, all mistakenly attributed their feelings to sexual attraction when they saw the woman afterward.