Attraction Cue #1: Mirroring
Mirroring is when someone is subtly copying/mimicking your speech or speech patterns and nonverbal behavior. This is a way to test the waters regarding someone’s level of interest.
When you are in the same environment as others, the space between you and them can tell you a lot about the relationship. The fancy word for space is proxemics.
Attraction Cue #2: Understanding Space
In a 1930s study, researcher W.T. James determined that the direction of the torso plays a key role in determining interest. Pay close attention to the belly during a conversation. In group settings, you may be able to spot the person who is most interested in you by looking at the belly pointed closest toward you.
Attraction Cue #3: Belly Direction
This is a really big one. It is so easy to get lost in our own world that we forget to ask questions. When you are with this person, do they ask you deep questions and truly want to understand you, or do they just graze the surface with boring social scripts?
Attraction Cue #4: Asking Questions
Eye gazing and eye contact are like superpowers when you understand the meaning behind them. When you are with this person, do they make eye contact with you for a longer time than with the average person? If this person is making deep (intimate or extended) eye contact with you, you know you have the green light.
Attraction Cue #5: Eye Contact