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What the Eyes Tell You About Lying and Hidden Emotions

What do the eyes tell us about deception? Hidden emotions? Relationships? In this post I want to break down different eye behaviors and cues.

the eyes tell you about lying


Before getting into details, I have to first explain the importance of baselining. The first step to figuring out if someone is lying to you is to find their baseline. A baseline is how someone acts when they are under normal, non-threatening conditions. Easily establish baselines by sitting down with the person you want to read better—your child, your spouse, your friend and talk to them casually about neutral topics that they would have no reason to lie about, like the weather or what they want to have for dinner. Take note of how they act, how they hold their body, how they sound.

Once you have established someone’s baseline you can look for some of the typical gestures outlined below people make with their eyes. If you see one of these clues and it is different than their baseline behavior you know it is a red flag and you have to dig a little deeper.

Eye-Related Nonverbal Clues:

1. Eye-Blocking

Covering or shielding the eyes is often seen when people literally do not like what they see. You will see this when people feel threatened by something or are repulsed by what they are hearing or seeing. This is an indicator of un-happy behavior. You also see eye-blocking in the form of eye-rubbing, lots of blinking. Eye blocking is powerful display of consternation, disbelief or disagreement.  This is actually an innate behavior–children who are born blind actually cover their eyes when they hear bad news.

2. Pupillometry

Our pupils dilate when we are seeing something stimulating or we are in low light. If we are aroused our pupils dilate in order to take in more of our pleasing surroundings. Often during courtship pupils stay dilated. You can tell when someone is aroused by looking closely at their pupils in constant surrounding light.

  • Advertisers almost always widen the pupils of women in their ads because it makes their product look aroused and welcoming.
  • When we see something negative our pupils also tend to constrict to block out the offensive imagery.

3. Squinting

People often squint at you when they do not like you or something you are saying. It can mean suspicion. (Same principal as eye-blocking above–blocking out what they do not like). If you see someone squint at you (and it is not low light) address them directly and clarify your point. They will often be amazed you picked up on their disbelief.

4. Eyebrows

We raise our eyebrows in a quick flash to draw attention to the face to be able to send clear communication signals. I have noticed I do this when I want to be understood or emphasize a point. Raising the eyebrows is a gesture of congeniality and hoping to get along and communicate better.

5. Synchrony and Mimicry

Mimicry or synchrony is when your behavior mimics or mirrors someone elses. You can mimic someone elses eye movement to build rapport. Although use this with caution–it is difficult to mimic someone in a genuine subtle way. If they notice it can feel creepy or forced.

6. Eyes and Courtship

Eye behavior is an important part of courtship. Here are the many ways we use our eye area in romance:

  • Women pluck their eyebrows higher up their forehead because it makes us look more helpless and this actually releases hormones in a man’s brain to protect and defend the female.
  • Women tend to raise their eyebrows and lower their lids to give the look of orgasming. (Think Marilyn Monroe)
  • Looking up and to the side is a ‘come hither’ look from a woman to a man.
  • Gazing at someone often engages their attention and encourages them to like you in return.
  • Researcher Monika Moore found that men often miss a women’s first eye-gazing courtship signal. On average, she needs to do it three times before the man takes notice.
  • A sideways glance over a raised shoulder highlights curves, the roundness of the female face–which signifies estrogen and exposes the vulnerability and pheromones of the neck. A great move for women trying to flirt.

7. Gazing

Gazing can be an intimate activity. In fact if you disagree with a superior you can show disagreement by holding gaze for a bit longer than normal. An interesting experiment shows the importance of gazing while dating. In one experiment, researchers told one partner on a blind date that the other had an eye problem, but that they didn’t know which eye was slow. This caused the person to do deep eye gazing to try to figure out which eye was the problem eye. Interestingly, compared to people on control dates (they were told nothing about an eye problem) the people on the eye problem date scored each other much better and rated the date higher and more intimate.

There are three types of gazing:

1)   Social Gazing– This is a triangle from the eyes to the mouth. It is non-aggressive and shows comfort.

2)   Intimate Gazing– If you want to be intimate with someone you want to look from their eyes to their mouth and lower to the body. If someone is doing this to you it usually means they are having intimate thoughts about you.

3)   Power Gazing– This is a triangle between the eyes and the forehead. It avoids the intimate areas of the mouth and body completely. (narrowing eyes is very powerful) (Women who play hard to get use social gazing not the intimate gaze in courtship.)

8. Sideways Glance

This usually denotes uncertainty or the need of more info. If someone sideways glances and has furrowed brow it can mean suspicion or critical feelings. Eyebrows up brows with a sideways glance on the other hand usually means interest or is a sign of courtship.

9. Looking Down One’s Nose

If someone lifts their head and looks down their nose at you it usually means they feel superior.

10. Darting Eyes

Darting eyes always means the person feels insecure. They are often looking for escape routes to talking to you.

11. Glasses

Studies show that women who wear glasses and make-up make the best impressions in business. Also those who wear glasses and peer over their lenses at others is always intimidating.

12. Women

Women observe and examine men more in interviews. They especially notice the back of men’s shoes as they walk out the door.

13. Controlling Where People Look

During presentations you can actually use people’s eyes to lead them in topics. Use your pen to garner attention. You can actually hold it at eye-level and then lift people’s head when you make a point. You can also compare points by drawing people’s eyes to the right and left.

14. Eye Direction

There are a number of studies that talk about the direction of eyes during lies. Typically when people look up an to the right they are lying or tapping into their imagination. When they look up to the left they are remembering or recalling something, tapping into the memory part of the brain. However be sure you get to know their natural movements because this can be reversed for left handed people. Here are some other guidelines that have been observed in people:

  • Looking to Their Right = Auditory Thought (Remembering a song)
  • Looking to Their Left = Visual Thought (Remembering the color of a dress)
  • Looking Down to Their Right = Someone creating a feeling or sensory memory (Thinking what it would be like to swim in jello)
  • Looking Down to Their Left = Someone talking to themselves

This can help you detect a lie if you ask someone a question and they look down to the right–as in they were creating a memory instead of remembering something. Note of caution, I have not been able to find a study replicating this effect–so only use with caution!


Navarro, Joe, and Marvin Karlins. What Every BODY Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-reading People. New York, NY: Collins Living, 2008.

Ekman, Paul. Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage. New York: Norton, 1985.

Pease, Allan, and Barbara Pease. The Definitive Book of Body Language. New York: Bantam, 2006.

Meyer, Pamela. Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception. New York: St. Martin’s, 2010.

Craig, David. Lie Catcher: Become a Human Lie Detector in under 60 Minutes. Newport, N.S.W.: Big Sky, 2011.

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  1. Brendan

    You wrote: “There are a number of studies that talk about the direction of eyes during lies.”

    I was wondering if you have any citations for these studies, because I was unable to find any during a preliminary search.


    1. Vanessa Van Edwards

      Hi Brendan!

      Thanks for writing in! The study on eye gazing is interesting. As I mentioned above I don’t rely on it bc it simply has not been accurate enough for me except when I baseline first and even then there are so many other more reliable indicators of deceit. Check out this study and some of the articles he references if you want to dig a little deeper:



  2. jonathon

    Hey this is really interesting I actually came to this page to understand what I was feeling and realized I was eye-blocking (because I was disgusted with someone)

    I find that its really awkward to acknowledge something like that in a social context. “sorry but I find you repulsive and creepy”. Is that how women feel when they meet a creepy guy? disgusted and superior?

    Much love infinite waters diving deep once again PEEEEEEAAAAAACE

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  4. Pepper rae

    I work with a man who picks his nose aggressively when staring at small children. Is this a sign of aggression?

    1. Vanessa Van Edwards

      Oh my goodness this is gross. I have not seen nose picking as a sign of aggression. Probably a sign that he is very inept at social norms!

      1. Vanessa Van Edwards

        Oh…there is research that says the nose tissue swells with blood when aroused. Ugh I hope there is no correlation here!

    2. Steven Lougheed

      I don’t know about you, but i would call the authorities and have him removed from that scenario. Maybe it is just me, but that could just be a nervous twitch. One that only shows itself when staring at children….. Which kind of makes me a bit leery of his ….. goals in life…..

  5. wray

    I have had suspicions about my girlfriend cheating on mea lot of the signs are there and she denies it all the time but last night II said once a cheater always a cheatershe instantly started rubbing her eyes and looked awayI know she loves me and I love her but is that a pretty strong sign

    1. Danielle McRae

      Hi Wray, thank you for your comment. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. Remember, there is not ONE SIGN that means someone is lying. Our recommendation is that you always baseline first (observe how they act in a calm, neutral environment), then look for red flags as you press deeper into the conversation. Three red flags is seen as a cluster, and you should definitely discuss this topic more. -Danielle and the Science of People Team

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  10. Feet2Fire

    Looking to Their Right = Auditory Thought (Remembering a song)
    Looking to Their Left = Visual Thought (Remembering the color of a dress)

    Have always heard that looking to the left is remembering something from the past and looking to the right is anticipating something in the future.

  11. Robby Smith

    Another great article on reading people’s emotions!! It’s interesting that Researcher Monika Moore found that men often miss a women’s first eye-gazing courtship signal and that they need to give it three times before we as man get the hint.

  12. Andrew

    My favorite part about this article is what the eye direction movements mean since it is one of the subconscious indicators we use that many people aren’t aware of. Once you’re able to get these movements memorized it’s much easier to read people!

  13. Lauren Freeman

    While reading through these I found myself making the faces and expressions myself and thinking of situations in which these expressions would be used! This is so fun for me!! I always eye-block when I see a scary movie or if I see someone in pain. And I know that me and my girlfriends tend to make squinty eyes at scummy men who try to hit on us at bars, imagining our faces now really makes me laugh! One thing I wonder about is why women tend to look at the back of mens shoes when they walk out the door.. is that only in an interview situation? Or in any type of situation? I’ve never noticed that, that I can recall, but I might now!!

  14. Nikki Thornton

    This is one of my most favourite articles yet! The eyes are so important and its one of the first things that i notice about a person. I wear contact lenses now but years ago before I went to the optician, i used to squint real bad but not realizing this. After reading this article has made me wonder whether I used to look continually suspicious at everything! Awesome information.

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  16. Dan

    Interesting, but I’m not sure about the part of eye direction. I think that the fact that you have not been able to find a study replicating this effect happened for some reason, I think there’s much more to it 🙂

  17. Karla

    I think that this article is very interesting especially since they do say the eyes are the window to the soul.

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  19. Jocelyn

    Just a query here, away from body language and romance. I am a grandmother and I have a grandson who suffers from an anxiety problem. To the extent that he does not even eat in front of people. Has grow up with the Selective Mutant Syndrome where he only spoke to his parents with a yes or no. Nodded to indicate yes or no to his teachers. He now at the age of sixteen has great difficulty in communicating with anyone. He is a very nervous young man. He has been seeing a counsellor at our local hospital for fifteen months now. There has been a little progress, but a big struggle. The reason for my story is because his pupils are always large. Can anyone give me any information regarding his problem.

  20. Theresa Harris

    Thank you very much for this article. It is fun and I bookmarked it. I constantly look back on it. It is almost physiology of the brain!
    Very very helpful.

  21. Dame

    I believe that when people look up and to the left, they are attempting to access the creative compartments in the brain. Possibly to fabricate, or lie. Also we think about food, we instinctively look down, to remember the smell

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  23. joanie detlefsen

    This post taught me a lot about sales. Bravo. You practice what you teach. Integrity at its best.

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