Many people worry that they have to be extroverted to use body language. But this is far from the truth! If you have shy body language or consider yourself an introvert, you can master body language and nonverbal behavior to strengthen your interactions and gain confidence.
Watch our video below to learn body language tips for introverts and how to deal with social anxiety:
Susan Cain, champion of Introverts and author of the New York Times Bestseller, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, argues that as a society we dramatically undervalue introverts. In her book, she shares the success stories of many introverts to persuade both extroverts and introverts alike to see the power in the quiet. Here are a few of our tips for introverts:
Take Up Space
When you take up more space in your environment, this helps you claim territory and assert your confidence. So instead of crossing your legs or tucking in your shoulders and head, try to be expansive. Keep your head high, your shoulders loose, sit larger in your chair and walk with long strides.
Don’t Cross Your Arms
Defeated or low power poses lower your testosterone levels and increase your stress hormone cortisol. So avoid crossing your arms and tightly crossing your legs. Keep your trunk wide open to people around you. Remember, this shows you are approachable to others and keeps you in a more open-minded attitude.
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Don’t Check Your Phone When You Are Nervous
Introverts tend to check their phone when they are nervous, but this puts you right into defeated body language. So try to avoid checking your phone when you want to feel confident and again try to relax and be expansive. I know someone who carries a newspaper around with him because that’s an easier way to take up space.
Use the Triple Nod
The triple nod is the nonverbal equivalent of the ellipses or three periods. It is a nonverbal cue for someone to keep talking. If you are introverted and aren’t great at making conversations, you want to encourage the person you are speaking with to keep talking. Once they are done speaking and pause, nod three times in quick succession and they will often continue. If not, you can pick up where the conversation left off, but this is a great way of showing engagement and lengthening a discussion.
Simply being aware and wanting more open body language can help you engage people and have better connections.
Crack The Code on Facial Expressions
The human face is constantly sending signals, and we use it to understand the person’s intentions when we speak to them.
In Decode, we dive deep into these microexpressions to teach you how to instantly pick up on them and understand the meaning behind what is said to you.
Learn how to decode emotions in our advanced communication course, People School.
Steal the Room Silently
You can command attention without saying a word—perfect for introverts who’d rather not shout. Use this table to map out a three-move power play that turns your quiet vibe into a confidence magnet. No fake extroversion, just subtle body language hacks to own any space.
| Move | How to Do It | Why It Works |
|---|---|---|
| Anchor Your Spot | Plant your feet shoulder-width apart, hands loose at your sides, chin up. | You look grounded, not fidgety—people notice stability. |
| Scan Like a Boss | Slowly sweep the room with your eyes, pause on faces for a beat, then move on. | You signal control and curiosity without a sound. |
| Lean Into Pauses | When someone stops talking, lean forward a hair, hold still, then ease back. | You show you’re engaged, not eager—quiet power shines. |
Try this combo next time you’re in a meeting or mingle. Stand firm by the wall, scan the crowd like you’re sizing up a chessboard, and lean in when the loudmouth pauses—watch heads turn. A barista I know pulled this at a staff huddle, stayed mute, and still got pegged as “the calm one who gets it” by her boss. Hit it three times—work, party, coffee shop—tweak your lean or scan speed each go. You’re not performing; you’re rewiring how people see your silence. You’ll feel untouchable without breaking a sweat.
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