15 Ways to Stop Oversharing at Work and in Relationships

Oversharing—it’s something most of us have been guilty of at some point. You start with an innocent comment, and suddenly you’re deep into a story about your messy breakup with someone who’s only asked, “How’s your day going?”

While opening up helps build connections, there’s a fine line between healthy vulnerability and revealing too much too soon. 

In this guide, you’ll discover proven strategies to strike the right balance—whether at work, in relationships, or on social media—so you can build authentic connections without crossing those invisible social boundaries.

What is Oversharing? 

Oversharing is when you reveal more personal information than is appropriate for a particular situation or relationship. 

You can overshare in many contexts:

• In person at work meetings or social gatherings
• Via email or text messages
• On social media platforms
• During first dates or early relationship stages

Oversharing typically has less to do with what you say and more about when, why, and to whom you say it. Relevant factors include:

• The depth of your relationship with the listener
• The context or setting where you’re sharing
• The other person’s comfort level
• Your motivation for sharing the information

Misreading these factors can cause appropriate self-disclosure (which research^{1https://oxfordre.com/communication/display/10.1093/acrefore/9780190228613.001.0001/acrefore-9780190228613-e-899} shows is extremely important for healthy interpersonal relationships, by the way!) to cross over into oversharing territory. 

Why Do People Overshare? 

There are lots of reasons people overshare. They may be desiring to build intimacy quickly, to avoid silence, or they may simply be unaware that they’re oversharing.  

Let’s take a closer look at some of the main reasons why people overshare. 

Struggling to Read Social Cues

Those who struggle to read social cues may not notice that the person they’re speaking with just started looking around more, laughing nervously, or crossing their arms—all subtle signs that they may feel uncomfortable. 

This difficulty with social cue recognition is particularly common in people with certain neurodivergent conditions. For example, those with ADHD may miss subtle signs that they’ve been talking too long or sharing too much due to differences in executive function and attention.

Want to master the subtle cues that indicate whether your sharing is welcome or unwelcome? Check out: 

Trying to Fast-Track the Relationship

A common reason for oversharing is the desire to build depth and emotional intimacy before the relationship is ready. This can often be connected to stress or a fear of not being liked by the person.

First dates, new coworkers, or mutual friends often elicit this oversharing. Oversharing is a way to try to rush intimacy with someone you feel like you “should” be close with. In these instances, it may also be a way to build depth when you’re experiencing loneliness. 

Different relationships will naturally progress at different speeds. However, most relationships take time to deepen. Combat the tendency to overshare by recognizing that relationships take time to build depth and intimacy. 

Feeling a False Sense of Closeness

What do nail artists, hair stylists, and Uber drivers have in common? They’re someone you share intimate space with, regardless of how well you know them. This can create a false sense of intimacy.

When someone is in your personal space—whether they’re styling your hair or painting your nails—it can be easy to misinterpret this physical closeness as emotional closeness and end up oversharing. 

Avoiding Awkward Silence

Some people hate awkward silence so much that they will do anything to avoid it—including oversharing. 

Considering that awkward silence actually triggers the fight-or-flight part of our brain, (according to Ty Tashiro in his book, The Science of Why We’re Socially Awkward and Why That’s Awesome), that’s understandable. But it’s far from ideal. Take this classic overshare from “Meet the Parents”, for example:

Consider taking a vow of silence to help you overcome awkward silence oversharing—more on that in a moment! 

Having Social Anxiety

Ironically, those who worry most about making good impressions often end up oversharing due to their anxiety. Studies^{2https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.3109/15622975.2015.1083613} show that when you feel socially anxious, your brain’s executive control systems—responsible for filtering thoughts—become less effective.

The anxiety creates a vicious cycle: you feel nervous, so you talk more to compensate. Then you realize you’re talking too much, which makes you more anxious, leading to more unfiltered speech.

Being Raised by Oversharers

If oversharing was normalized in your family, you might not even recognize when you’re doing it. Our earliest social experiences create powerful neural patterns that shape how we interact with others throughout life.

Children raised in families where personal boundaries are blurred often develop communication styles that mirror this pattern, not realizing that different contexts require different levels of disclosure.

Common Types of Over sharers

Oversharing manifests in different ways depending on the person and context. Here are some common archetypes you might recognize:

The Personal Problem Dumper

This person treats casual acquaintances like therapists, unloading heavy emotional baggage with little warning. They might describe intimate relationship details, family conflicts, or deep emotional struggles to someone they’ve just met.

Example: Telling your new coworker about your ongoing divorce proceedings and custody battle during your first lunch together.

The TMI Specialist

The Too Much Information specialist overshares about bodily functions, intimate physical details, or graphic medical information in inappropriate settings.

Example: Describing your recent colonoscopy experience in vivid detail during a dinner party.

The Chronic Confessor

This person feels compelled to reveal every mistake, flaw, or embarrassing moment, often seeking reassurance or absolution from others who aren’t close enough to provide it meaningfully.

Example: Telling your boss about how you cheated on an exam in college when they simply asked about your educational background.

The Social Media Broadcaster

They document every aspect of their lives online—from relationship fights to financial struggles—without considering their digital footprint or audience.

(Not so) fun fact: Recent research^{3https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/00332941221122861} shows that oversharing on social media is associated with anxiety, attention-seeking and an addiction to social media. 

Example: Posting a 20-paragraph account of your relationship breakup, including private text messages, visible to all 1,500 of your Facebook friends.

The Workplace Oversharer

This person blurs professional boundaries by sharing too many personal details in work settings, making colleagues uncomfortable.

Example: Regularly updating your team about your dating life during staff meetings.

How to Stop Oversharing: 15 Strategies for Work and Relationships

Ask Questions Instead of Talking About Yourself

One of the quickest ways to stop oversharing is by asking questions and giving others room to talk about themselves. 

This shift in focus accomplishes two things simultaneously: it prevents you from dominating the conversation and helps you build rapport by showing genuine interest. In fact, research^{4https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fpspi0000097} shows that asking questions makes people like you more!

So, before your next social interaction, prepare 3-5 open-ended questions you could ask. When you notice yourself about to launch into a personal story, redirect by asking one of these questions instead. 

Pro Tip: Be cautious not to pressure someone else to share more than they’re ready to by asking overly personal questions. Instead, start with opener questions—simple inquiries that show genuine interest in something you already know about the person.

For example:

• At a networking event: “What aspects of your work do you find most rewarding?”
• With a new neighbor: “How long have you lived in the area?”
• With colleagues: “What projects are you excited about right now?”

Need inspiration for questions? Check out these conversation starters below:  

Identify Your Oversharing Triggers

Self-awareness is crucial for changing any habit. By identifying specific situations, emotions, or people that trigger your tendency to overshare, you can develop targeted strategies to maintain appropriate boundaries.

Consider keeping a brief journal of oversharing incidents for two weeks. After each occurrence, note:

• Who you were with
• Where you were
• How you were feeling emotionally
• What happened just before you started oversharing
• What time of day it was

Look for patterns to identify your specific triggers. Common triggers include:

• Feeling socially anxious
• Being around certain personality types
• Consuming alcohol
• Feeling tired or emotionally drained
• Specific topics of conversation

Pro Tip: Once you’ve identified your triggers, create an oversharing prevention plan for high-risk situations. For example, if you notice you overshare when tired, limit evening social interactions or set a personal curfew for important meetings.

Create a Personal Disclosure Scale

Not all information requires the same level of intimacy to share appropriately. Creating a mental framework for what constitutes casual, personal, and intimate information can help you gauge whether something is appropriate to share in a given context.

Try categorizing information on a 1-5 scale:

1. Public information – Facts anyone could know (your name, profession)
2. Casual information – General preferences or experiences (favorite movies, vacation spots)
3. Personal information – Your values, beliefs, and general challenges
4. Private information – Specific personal struggles, relationship details
5. Intimate information – Deeply personal experiences, traumas, secrets

Before sharing, quickly assess what level the information falls under, then consider whether your relationship with the listener matches that intimacy level.

Pro Tip: As a general rule, stick to levels 1-2 with acquaintances, levels 1-3 with friends, and save levels 4-5 for close friends, family, or therapists.

Pause and Reflect

Oversharing often happens when we speak without filtering our thoughts. Implementing a brief pause before speaking can create the mental space needed to evaluate what you’re about to say.

Practice taking a deep breath before answering a question or jumping into a story. During this pause, quickly ask yourself: “Is this information relevant, appropriate, and helpful to share in this context?”

Pro Tip: If someone asks you a question you don’t know how to answer without oversharing, try saying: “That’s a thoughtful question. Let me think about it for a moment.” This gives you time to formulate a response that reveals only what you’re comfortable sharing.

Wait Before Hitting “Send”

Digital oversharing can have even more lasting consequences than verbal oversharing because there’s a permanent record. Implementing a mandatory waiting period before sending personal messages can prevent impulsive disclosures.

Action Step: If you’re sharing something personal via text or email, draft your message, then set it aside for at least an hour (or overnight for more sensitive content) before sending. When you return to it, read it from the recipient’s perspective and ask yourself:

• Would I be comfortable if this message were shared with others?
• How would I feel if I received this level of personal information?
• Does this strengthen or potentially strain our relationship?

Consider sending a screenshot to a trusted friend before sharing something you’re unsure about, asking if they think you’re oversharing.

Learn to Pivot the Conversation

Learning to smoothly redirect conversations away from topics that might lead you to overshare is an invaluable skill. This allows you to maintain engagement without revealing more than you’re comfortable sharing.

Practice these redirection techniques:

• The bridge: Acknowledge the question, then redirect (“That’s an interesting question about my family background. It reminds me of something I read about how diverse cultural influences shape people’s perspectives. Have you ever studied different cultures?”)
• The boomerang: Return a similar but less personal question (“I’m still figuring out my career path. What about you? How did you decide on your field?”)
• The light deflection: Use humor to gently sidestep (“My dating life? It’s like a reality TV show nobody would watch! Speaking of shows, have you seen anything good lately?”)

Pro Tip: Witty banter is a great way to lighten a conversation that’s steering toward territory where you might overshare. For example, if someone asks an intrusive question like, “Why did your last relationship end?” you might respond with something playful like, “Still waiting for the screenplay adaptation to figure that out!” before changing the subject.

Adopt the “Need to Know” Principle

Borrowed from information security practices, the “need to know” principle suggests that information should only be shared with those who genuinely need that information to fulfill their role in your life.

Action Step: Before sharing personal information, ask yourself:

• Does this person need this specific information?
• What purpose does sharing this serve?
• Am I sharing to help them or to help myself?

For example, your boss needs to know if you need time off for a medical appointment, but doesn’t need the specific details of your medical condition. A friend needs to know you’re going through a breakup if they’re providing emotional support, but doesn’t need every detail of what went wrong.

Practice Active Listening

Many people overshare because they’re focused on what they want to say rather than truly listening to the other person. Shifting your attention to active listening not only prevents oversharing but also improves the quality of your conversations.

During your next conversation, challenge yourself to listen more than you speak. Focus completely on what the other person is saying rather than planning your response. Ask thoughtful follow-up questions based on what they’ve shared rather than redirecting to your own experiences.

Pro Tip: If you struggle with ADHD and find that active listening is challenging, try taking brief notes mentally or physically. This can help you stay engaged without feeling the need to immediately share your thoughts.

Create Boundaries for Social Media Sharing

Social media platforms are designed to encourage sharing, making them particularly dangerous for those prone to oversharing. Creating clear personal guidelines about what you will and won’t post can help you maintain appropriate boundaries online.

Action Step: Develop a personal social media policy by asking yourself:

• Would I be comfortable with my boss/parents/future children seeing this post?
• Could this information be used against me in the future?
• Am I sharing this for attention or validation?
• Would I share this information in person with the same audience?

Consider implementing a post delay rule—write posts in a notes app first, then wait 24 hours before deciding whether to actually publish them.

Designate Safe Sharing Spaces

Rather than eliminating personal sharing entirely (which can be unhealthy), designate appropriate contexts for deeper disclosure. This allows you to express yourself authentically while maintaining boundaries in other situations.

Pro Tip: Identify 2-3 “safe spaces” for deep personal sharing, such as:

• Therapy sessions
• Close friend meetups
• Support groups
• Journal writing
• Trusted family members

When you feel the urge to overshare in inappropriate settings, remind yourself that you have dedicated times and places where those thoughts can be expressed.

Replace Oversharing with Constructive Vulnerability

Not all personal disclosure is oversharing. Constructive vulnerability—sharing appropriate personal insights that build genuine connection—is healthy and important for relationships. The key is learning the difference.

Action Step: Practice replacing oversharing with constructive vulnerability by:

• Sharing feelings rather than explicit details (“I’ve been going through a challenging time” vs. detailed account of your problems)
• Focusing on insights rather than incidents (“That experience taught me to value transparency” vs. sharing every detail of the experience)
• Sharing strengths alongside struggles (“I’m working on better work-life balance and have made progress by setting these boundaries…”)

Try a Temporary Information Diet

If oversharing has become a deeply ingrained habit, you might benefit from a temporary reset period where you practice extreme restraint in what you share. This can help break the pattern and give you a fresh start with healthier boundaries.

Action Step: Challenge yourself to a one-week “information diet” where you:

• Share only necessary information at work
• Refrain from posting personal content on social media
• Limit personal disclosures in casual conversations
• Focus on asking questions rather than sharing about yourself

After the week, gradually reintroduce personal sharing while maintaining your new awareness of boundaries.

Use the THINK Framework Before Sharing

The THINK framework provides a quick mental checklist before sharing personal information:

• True: Is what I’m about to share factually accurate?
• Helpful: Does sharing this information serve a purpose?
• Inspiring: Will this information uplift or encourage others?
• Necessary: Does this need to be said right now?
• Kind: Is sharing this information considerate to all involved?

Action Step: Post this framework somewhere visible as a reminder, such as a sticky note on your computer or a note in your phone. Before sharing, run through each letter of the framework to determine if your disclosure passes the test.

Develop a Personal Mantra for High-Risk Situations

Having a prepared phrase or mantra can help you resist the urge to overshare in moments when you’re most vulnerable to doing so. This creates an automatic response that gives you time to reconsider.

Action Step: Create a personal mantra that resonates with you, such as:

• “Less is more”
• “I can listen without having to share”
• “My story is precious and deserves the right audience”
• “I don’t need to fill every silence”

Repeat this mantra to yourself when you feel the impulse to share too much. This creates a pause that can interrupt the automatic oversharing behavior.

Seek Professional Support if Needed

For some people, oversharing is linked to deeper psychological patterns that may benefit from professional guidance. If you find that your oversharing is causing significant problems in your relationships or career, consider working with a therapist.

Important note: While this guide provides science-backed tips for building better habits, it should not be taken as medical advice. The strategies in this article work best when combined with appropriate professional support when needed. You can find qualified therapists through the Mental Health America’s directory.

What is the Difference Between Authenticity and Oversharing?

In our culture of “radical transparency” and social media openness, it can be difficult to distinguish between healthy authenticity and problematic oversharing. Yet understanding this distinction is crucial for building genuine connections while maintaining appropriate boundaries.

The Authenticity-Oversharing Spectrum

Authenticity is honest and vulnerable; oversharing overwhelms someone who isn’t prepared with lots of personal information—or sharing more than you intended.

There can be a misconception that to be authentic, you must share intimate details with everyone who asks. But that isn’t always the case.

In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown writes, “Using vulnerability is not the same thing as being vulnerable; it’s the opposite—it’s armor.” In other words, sometimes what looks like openness is actually a defensive mechanism or a way to seek validation.

Authenticity vs. Oversharing Examples

Let’s explore the difference between authentic vulnerability and oversharing through a couple of scenarios:

1st Scenario: Jean and her partner decided to take a break after a year of dating. They both still care about one another but need to take a step back to determine if this is a relationship they want to continue investing in.

One week into the break, Jean bumps into an old high school friend at the grocery store. They used to be close but lost touch and haven’t seen one another in years. After chatting for a while, her friend asks if she’s currently seeing anyone.

Oversharing

Authentic

“I have no idea, honestly. I’ve been dating this great guy for a year, but he’s not quite as motivated as I want him to be. It feels like I’m always asking him to take the initiative. But he’s great at supporting me, which I really appreciate. We’re currently on a break, and I’m not sure at this point what I want. I want to be with him, but I also want him to take more initiative and be a higher achiever.”

“Thanks for asking. If I’m being honest, I’m in a bit of a complicated place right now with my partner. It’s been teaching me a lot about myself, which is super valuable! How about you? Are you seeing anyone right now?”

Notice how in the second option, Jean was still transparent, but she didn’t fall into oversharing. She stuck with a few details and then returned the question to her friend.

2nd Scenario: Matt’s grandfather had a stroke, and Matt wants to visit him and help take him to a few doctor’s appointments.

Matt is a student with a research paper due that week and is trying to draft an email to ask for an extension on it. He’s not particularly close with this professor, but he’s trying to strike a balance between saying enough so that they understand and not oversharing.

Oversharing

Authentic

“Hi Professor, I just heard from my mom that her father had a stroke today. I’ve just booked a flight to visit him next week, so I can drive him to doctor’s appointments and spend some time with him. I was wondering if it would be possible for me to have an extension on the paper due next week? A lot of the research I was planning on referencing is in the library, and I’m not sure I’ll be able to write the paper since I’ll be out of town.”

“Hi Professor, I’m writing to ask if it would be possible to get an extension on the research paper due next week. I’m leaving town suddenly for some personal family reasons. Please let me know if you need more information to make your decision. Thank you for your consideration.”

Notice that in the second email, Matt got straight to the point of why he’s emailing his professor. This demonstrated respect for his professor’s time. Matt also showed a willingness to share more with his professor if they needed to, without dumping all of his grandfather’s medical information on them out of the blue.

Key Differences Between Authenticity and Oversharing

Here’s a handy reference table outlining the differences between authenticity and oversharing: 

Authenticity	Oversharing
Intentional disclosure	Impulsive revelation
Serves a purpose	Often serves insecurity
Considers the listener’s comfort	Prioritizes your need to express
Creates mutual connection	Can create discomfort or distance
Reveals appropriate vulnerability	Reveals too much too soon
Builds trust gradually	Attempts to force intimacy
Feels comfortable afterward	Often followed by regret

Learning to be authentic without oversharing is a balancing act that takes practice, but it’s worth the effort! True authenticity creates deeper connections than oversharing ever can.

When Oversharing Turns Harmful

People can use oversharing as a form of fake vulnerability. It can be a way of trying to build intimacy without relational depth.

They can also use oversharing as a way to “test” how people will respond to something challenging or painful one has experienced. This testing is rarely a solid foundation for genuine connection.

For example, if you struggle with feeling unloved, you may tell a new acquaintance many personal details about your parents. This could be a way of “testing” how they will respond—will they “prove you right” and emotionally distance themselves from you, or will they “affirm” you and be frustrated with your parents?

Brené Brown likens oversharing to a floodlight. It’s overwhelming and leaves the listener blinking in the overpowering light.

The Real-World Consequences of Oversharing

Oversharing can have serious impacts on your personal and professional life:

Social Consequences

• Creating discomfort that leads others to avoid you
• Building relationships based on inappropriate intimacy rather than genuine connection
• Developing a reputation as someone who lacks discretion
• Making it difficult for others to respect your boundaries
• Creating gossip chains when shared information spreads beyond intended recipients

Professional Consequences

• Damaging your professional reputation
• Blurring appropriate work boundaries
• Limiting career advancement opportunities
• Creating awkward power dynamics, especially with supervisors
• Potentially violating workplace confidentiality policies

Digital Consequences

• Creating a permanent record that can affect future opportunities
• Exposing yourself to potential security risks
• Providing information that could be used for identity theft
• Creating content that may resurface at inopportune times
• Damaging your digital reputation with employers, romantic interests, or others

Psychological Consequences

• Experiencing “vulnerability hangover” after sharing too much
• Creating patterns of approval-seeking behavior
• Avoiding deeper self-reflection by constantly externalizing thoughts
• Developing unhealthy attachment patterns in relationships
• Potentially re-traumatizing yourself by sharing sensitive experiences in unsafe contexts

How to Tell You’re Oversharing

It can be hard to notice that you’re oversharing in real time, but some context cues can help you see and redirect before you’ve gone too far down the oversharing route.

Physical Signs from Others that You’re Oversharing

One of the best ways to realize that you’re oversharing is by the reactions of those around you. Watch for these nonverbal cues that may indicate discomfort:

• Decreased eye contact or glancing around
• Stepping back or creating physical distance
• Crossing arms or legs (closing off body language)
• Checking phones or watches repeatedly
• Offering only brief, polite responses
• Nervous laughter or forced smiles
• Fidgeting or playing with objects
• Looking for escape routes or others to join the conversation

Self-Reflection Questions

Another way to catch oversharing is to reflect. Here are some questions to ask yourself that might indicate a tendency to overshare:

Do you hate small talk? If you really dislike small talk, you may feel like jumping into personal conversation topics quicker than is appropriate. While small talk can get tedious if you never move past it, learn to enjoy the little jokes and find things you have in common with someone else.

Do you feel like you need to be understood by everyone? Most people want to feel understood, but you may be crossing boundaries and oversharing if you need your coworker to side with you in the argument you had with your spouse last weekend.

Do you share lots of personal stories? Personal stories can be a great way to share a laugh with someone or let them see a glimpse of your personal life. You don’t want to stop sharing stories entirely, but knowing what stories are helpful and relevant for a given situation is good. Pay attention to if others are also sharing personal stories or if you’re the only one. That can be a helpful indicator of whether you’re oversharing.

Are you always planning what you’ll say next? When you’re having a conversation, it can be easy to start planning your next story or comment in your head. The problem with this is that it doesn’t leave room to be a good listener. Practice being fully engaged in what the other person is saying so that you can ask good questions and respond to them well.

Special Considerations for ADHD and Oversharing

People with ADHD often face unique challenges when it comes to oversharing. The neurological differences in how the ADHD brain functions can make it particularly difficult to filter thoughts and monitor the appropriate level of disclosure in conversations.

Why People with ADHD May Overshare More Frequently

Several factors contribute to why those with ADHD may struggle more with oversharing:

• Reduced impulse control: ADHD affects the brain’s executive functions, including the ability to filter thoughts before speaking.
• Challenges with social cue recognition: People with ADHD may miss subtle signs that listeners are uncomfortable or disinterested.
• Hyperfocus on topics of interest: When excited about a subject, people with ADHD may share extensively without noticing the listener’s engagement level.
• Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD): Many with ADHD experience RSD, leading to oversharing as a way to gain approval or prevent rejection.
• Time blindness: Difficulty gauging how long they’ve been speaking can lead to extended monologues.

Specific Strategies for Managing Oversharing with ADHD

If you have ADHD, these targeted approaches can help you manage oversharing while honoring your neurodivergent brain:

1. Use external timers or reminders: Set a subtle phone timer during social events to prompt you to pause and check in with yourself and others.
2. Develop a sharing “budget”: Before entering a social situation, decide on a certain number of personal stories you’ll share, helping you be more selective.
3. Create a physical reminder: Wear a specific bracelet or ring that you can touch to remind yourself to check whether you’re dominating the conversation.
4. Prepare concise responses: For common questions where you tend to elaborate too much, practice brief 2-3 sentence responses ahead of time.
5. Partner with a trusted friend: Arrange a signal with a friend who can alert you when you’re starting to overshare.
6. Create post-interaction reflection time: Schedule a few minutes after meetings or social events to review how the interaction went and what you might adjust next time.
7. Try voice recording practice: Record yourself answering common questions to develop awareness of your natural communication patterns.
8. Be compassionate with yourself: Remember that oversharing stems from neurological differences, not character flaws. Self-compassion leads to more effective change than self-criticism.

Pro Tip: Many with ADHD find that their tendency to share openly and enthusiastically is also a strength that helps them build authentic connections. The goal isn’t to suppress your personality but to channel it in ways that serve your relationships.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) About Oversharing

Overcoming Oversharing

As you work to overcome oversharing, don’t expect to be able to change overnight. As with any area of personal development, there will be setbacks in the growth journey—have patience with yourself. 

Here are some things you can do right now to help you build genuine relationships and stop oversharing: 

• Ask Questions: When you’re having a conversation, listen with the intent to learn rather than planning your response. This will likely help you achieve depth quicker in your relationships than talking a lot will. 
• Think before you speak: Before you share a story with someone, think about how it will benefit them to know the information you’re about to share. Then, tailor the story to be especially interesting to them. 
• Figure out why you overshare: Keep a log of when you are most likely to overshare. This can help you find patterns, which can help you be on alert the next time you’re in a certain setting. 
• Lighten the mood: If the conversation is getting serious, and you’re worried about oversharing, lighten the mood with a bit of banter or joke. 
• Re-read written communication before sending: If you’re able, wait for a while between writing an email, social media post, or text message and sending it. This will allow you to re-read it with a clearer perspective before it goes to the recipient. 

Noticing other people’s body language is an essential skill for picking up on when you might be oversharing. To improve your body language reading abilities, check out 23 Essential Body Language Examples and Their Meanings.